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17 Clues Your Girlfriend IS or WAS a Whore

This article I think is appropriate since there are so many guys that come here to Thailand and meet someone that they think is the answer to either their prayers… or to their sleepless nights with their hand under the sheets. The girl is really a whore – and the guy is clueless.

Now, for the guys that don’t care – ok, no worries – whatever you want for yourself – whatever is OK for yourself – is great. Have fun. Don’t read this until after you and your whore break up and then read this for when you want to find a decent girl next time or the time after that – or when you have a friend that needs some help, not for you…

This list of clues to knowing if you have found a good girl or one that is now or was in the past – not a good girl. It shouldn’t need to be said that if you found your girl in a bar of ANY sort that you shouldn’t be reading this list… you know from whence she came and you don’t need to read this list of clues to see if maybe she might have SOME redeeming qualities OTHER than she she was found in a bar.

Likewise, there are some Geographical AREAS that one could say – anyone that came from that AREA is, or was a whore. Patpong, Pattaya, and Phuket are 3 areas that come to mind. There ARE girls that are good girls there – don’t get me wrong, but the chances that you found the 1 out of 175 to be YOUR girlfriend – are – just that, 1 in 175.

Don’t brush these off because your honey-muffin told you she did something different with her life. Thai bargirls will make up EVERY story possible to get you to believe that she wasn’t a whore. Few of these in the clues list are so right on that if she is guilty of it – then she IS or WAS a whore without question. However, if your little tinsel toes trips more than one of these – just accept the fact… she’s a WHORE…

– She is familiar with one of the pay-for-play areas in Thailand. If she KNOWS the areas – she is or was a whore. If she can show you around Pattaya or Patong – and shows you around to all the touristy spots chances are great she didn’t work there as a travel guide.

– She wears a lot of makeup. In Thailand the good girls don’t wear makeup. The Thai guys obviously don’t care about it – or the entire country would be wearing makeup. The only reason a girl would be wearing a lot of makeup is if: She is from another country. She is in the fashion industry – a model, actress, or someone in high-so (high society). Or, she is used to wearing it because she knows how to look good for the tourists who come to Thailand. If it’s the 3rd one, she’s a freelance or a f/t whore.

– She isn’t shy about patting your azz in public, holding hands, and kissing you – even on the cheek. Good Thai girls don’t DO THIS. This should be a major flag.

– She has had a baby, but the baby is not with her… A large percentage of girls that work in the pay-for-play industry have had children that they’ve left with their mothers, aunts or other relatives – so they can work unencumbered. A Thai woman loves her kids a lot. Those that are not WITH them are not with them for a reason. If the mom worked a restaurant – she could have the kid with her wherever she was. If the mom was working as a whore – it’s not a good atmosphere for the kid and she knows it – and won’t expose the kid to it.

– Your girl isn’t a virgin. This is a pretty good clue actually. In Thai society – a girl that is not a virgin gets no dowry and probably gets no decent husband either. A girl that loses her virginity had better marry the guy. If she does not – then she is spoiled goods and the Thai guys won’t marry her. They will almost NEVER marry a girl that has been married and has a child. They have a severe loss of face for this – to be raising someone else’s child. There are exceptions – but, I’d say this is a BIG CLUE.

– All the girl can think about and talk about – the only thing that she seems to be passionate about, is money and what she wants that costs more money. Good Thai girls don’t MENTION money. It’s not something that is on their mind and they are not obsessed by it. Girls that are obsessed by it will do things to get more money. What does a girl with no skills, no university education and working in a restaurant do for money? I’ve seen so many girls that are freelance whores – they just go with guys they like for a dinner or movie or whatever – maybe straight to their room – just because they need an extra 500 – 1000 baht to get the latest phone or clothes or whatever. To me – this is a major flag – and I avoid ALL girls that are focused on money. To live in Thailand all a girl needs is 5000 baht per month to be happy. They eat and stay very cheaply. I’ve seen it. I’ve also seen those that weren’t happy with that kind of money – offer me sexz for cash.

– If she has friends IN Pattaya, Patong, or Patpong and she’s keeping in close contact with them – she is or was or may turn out to be a whore if the relationship with you doesn’t work.

– If she has tattoos – she worked in the pay for play industry in SOME fashion. Whether she worked in a bar, as a masseuse, danced with poles (not polish people, metal poles), served drinks at a restaurant, worked in a fishbowl, or freelanced on the streets – the girl was almost definitely a whore. Add to this – if she has piercings beside her earrings – she was or is a whore. If she has her tongue pierced she was or is 100% without fail, a whore. If her nose is pierced – not 100% but north of 95% I’d say.

– If she goes to another place to talk on the cellphone then she is hiding something. It should make you wonder. The girls that have nothing to hide – have nothing to hide. If she’s hiding something – it’s another man or husband. Many girls in the “industry” are married with Thai guys and send them money – maybe YOUR money to support them. It’s what they do for love… !

– Her English is pretty good. She understands anything that has to do with money or a bar or restaurant situation. She may joke to you about “short time, love you long time, no money no honey…” and other typical bar-type jokes and ribbing that goes on. If she does these things – SHE WORKED IN THE INDUSTRY!

– She is not interested at all in taking care of you once you are in a relationship with her. She wants to watch TV all day and eat, and gossip with her friends. She wants to send out for laundry and eat out everyday. She doesn’t cook. She isn’t looking at you like you are a gift from heaven – which you are – you are making a farang salary – easily 4 times what any Thai guy is making… and you are supporting her with free rent, spending money, and going out to eat sometimes… whores and ex-whores want to really minimize WHAT they are doing from day to day. They’ll plead with you to go out to eat somewhere, complain that they don’t have what someone else has – different type of car, gold, vacations, computer, bigger TV, IPod, etc… they are never satisfied with what they have, and they don’t GIVE much in the way of effort to keeping the house, cooking or things like that. They are used to the bargirl lifestyle which is – eat out everyday and try to buy what everyone else has.

– She has a separate bank account. Sometimes she is transferring money OUT to a Thai husband…. sometimes she is receiving money from one or a group of past customers (foreigners probably) when she was a f/t whore. Guys will continue to send money for a LONG time between visits. Girls will, of course, collect it as long as he’s sending it.

– If she is not reachable by phone sometimes – she is up to something. Not saying she’ s a whore, BUT, any Thai girl that can pick up a ringing cell phone while riding 70km per hour on the motorbike can pick a cell phone up ANYTIME unless there’s a sneaky reason why she won’t. The cell phone is a Thai girl’s entire existence… if she’s holed up with you living a boring life in the village – that phone is her link to sanity. If you are calling her and she’s not answering it – something is SERIOUSLY wrong with that picture… No doubt.

Well, that’s 12 – I’ll let other people come up with another 5, I’m pooped out… If you have any to add – comment them – and I’ll add them if I agree…

Update: 1/2011

This post caused more grief than you can imagine. Since I posted it I’ve constantly had guys writing me and telling me that the word whore is not appropriate, it’s too rough.

In this case I call it as I see it.

There are THOUSANDS of guys that married prostitutes – and they can’t read this post without a knee-jerk reaction to it. It’s the truth… the truth hurts I think. Can you imagine marrying a whore and then having a baby with her? Your son or daughter has a whore for a mom? I just don’t get it… but so many guys marry the bargirls. It’s a very sad thing for the kids, for the guy involved as he inevitably gets shafted time and time again – and loses the whole farm.

Sure there are some successes. Show me them… nobody is talking about those…