| While there are many ladyboys here in Thailand there
are also a lot of girls that dress and act a bit like men. Thais'
call them "Toms". They too are readily accepted here. It seems
that they fill a void created by Thai men. Thai men are seen as not
really caring or attentive to the needs of their girlfriends and
wives. They pretty much do as they want and don't ask for permission
- or forgiveness. They tend to do whatever it is they please. If the
girlfriend wants to get away from him she may have a hard time
because often they threaten the girl with violence or may actually
hit the girl, choke her, threaten to kill her family, etc. The
usual jealous reaction that many have around the world.
I wasn't really aware of Toms until I taught English
at my home for a group of university students. A group of 4 girls, 3
of them beautiful, and one girl that wasn't quite so beautiful.
During the course the girls 'outed' her about 40 times saying she
liked girls and that she really liked young girls about 15 years
old. This was completely normal for all of them to talk about their
friend like this. When they did the girl pretended she was shy but I
think she enjoyed the attention.
I then began to ask other students about Toms in
my Mathyom level classes and other university students and I found
that there are many of them here. Some are incognito,
preferring not to dress differently. Some dress as feminine and
you'd never have a clue. Sometimes you'll see them out dating at
restaurants with their beautiful Thai girl date. They seem to really
get some STUNNING girlfriends.
So, that's about all I know (or think I know)
about Toms. Do you have a story??? Any new information?
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