What Happens to Your Kids when You Die?

Don’t take any chances… figure this out now while you can.

I wondered just for a second today, what happens if my wife and I die in Thailand? Where does my daughter go? I’ve been stressed AF since asking myself that two hours ago.

My daughter is brilliant in personality, intelligence, her mindset. She’s capable of doing something big. Given the right circumstances. I can provide those circumstances, and definitely will. But, what if I’m gone? What if my wife is gone? It’s the most horrifying thought ever.

I don’t see anyone in the group of in-laws in Thailand who could take care of my daughter and give her the best opportunities in life. I don’t see any of our friends here, except possibly one couple. I don’t know them well enough, but my wife might. That will be our topic of discussion this evening.

Back in the USA, I can think only of one family that would be perfect for my daughter. My brother’s family. He’s 100% the right one.

How in the hell is he going to get custody of my daughter in Thailand if my wife and I are dead?

We’ll be talking to lawyer(s) this week to get this straightened out.

It’s on my mind because, well, one just never knows.

We all visited my wife’s uncle and aunt in Sisaket a few years ago. Great visit. They were real gems. A week after we got back, they were both dead in a car crash as a drunk guy parked his car in the middle of the main 3-lane road near their house. The car in front of them saw it in time to swerve. They didn’t. The 3 yr old they had custody of went to a sister of the aunt. She’s a drunk. They have very little money and they live in a small village.

There is NO WAY that is happening to my daughter.

Gotta figure this out PRONTO because some stuff just cannot wait.

Anybody know the answer to this? Anyone already ask themselves this question? Are you OK with anyone in the extended family raising your child(ren) if you die?

This is really stressing me out right now!

Living in Thailand

Many visitors that stay for a week or so start asking themselves about whether or not they could live in Thailand.

Can you handle living in Thailand? For a year or a lifetime??

Years back there were estimates by some Thailand expats that suggested there were well over 100,000 expats from around the world living in Thailand at any one time. I’m not sure that number has any validity considering there have been some sweeping visa restrictions across the board that probably took expats living in Siam to Indonesia, Cambodia, Japan, Korea, and Philippines. Recently in 2014 there has been another major immigration overhaul and the tourist visa appears to have lost its life. Personally I already know a number of expats that were living in Bangkok, Nakhon Ratchasima, Ubon, and Chiang Mai that have left Thailand in search of greener grass.

To me the grass is still green and I’d not rather live elsewhere and deal with an entirely different culture. Thai culture suits me pretty well. Very well really. Living Thailand style is different than in the west – way different, but it’s not a bad way of life at all.

What might you think about when deciding to move to Thailand?

Visiting first. Many people, myself included, just hop on a plane all set to live in Thailand for a year or so, not knowing at all what they’re getting into. I researched Thailand for months before deciding on it over the other Asian countries nearby. Despite how much you look into it – you’ll be surprised at many things when you arrive. You can’t be TOO prepared when it comes to moving to a foreign country to live. My best advice is to find someone that can answer some of your questions for you. I found a guy that did that for me and it helped immensely give me a good feel for what I’d be getting into. I took a chance by not visiting Thailand first – I wouldn’t suggest it for most people. You’ve got to be adventurous, but there’s something else – you have to be committed to staying because you will face some things that put you off. It’s inevitable. So, if you can, visit first and see if it’s really something you could deal with. It’s a world different than your home country. I guarantee that!

Cash bailout money. It’s important to have as much as possible saved before you arrive. I used to recommend less, but since what happened to me could happen to almost anyone, I’m recommending you have minimum 10,000 to 15,000 USD available not only for your basic needs until you find a teaching job or whatever it is you’ll do here (even retire)… but, also for emergencies… like plain-clothed police officers showing up in your hotel room accusing you of things… Or any sort of scam. Ideally you can make money as you travel. If you’re a digital nomad, or have considered learning a skill to become one, here’s some information about it.

Touring around the country and choosing a spot to live. Bangkok is the only place for many people. For me it’s the only place I’d never consider living. I’ve stayed in New York City, Honolulu, Miami, and Tampa – all big cities and besides Honolulu I really don’t enjoy living in a big city at all. Give me Thailand’s out of the way towns of less than 50,000 people and I’m in the right spot. Thailand has many different styles of life – and you should see some of them before deciding where to live. Nothing will predict whether you can stay a year or not like choosing the wrong location to stay. You might last 2 months in such a situation. Take six months to travel the country and see Chiang Mai, Trat, Nakhon Ratchasima (Korat), Nong Khai, Bangkok, Hua Hin, and some of the south. Each Thailand location has a much different style of living.

Thailand food. Sure you like it at the restaurant, but, can you eat it nearly every meal for a year? This is one area that kills expats’ dreams quickly. If you don’t like spicy food – don’t live in the northeast, and maybe not the south either. In the northeast I can’t imagine someone being able to find and order non-spicy food continually day after day unless eating the same foods everyday. How fun is that? Do some research into what Thais eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Be ready to have your beliefs challenged… like, hot noodle soup for breakfast. Breakfast for me was the hardest thing to get over about living in Thailand. Finally I’m fine with it- and love it, but it did take some getting used to no pancakes, no cereal, no good coffee to drink.

Coffee. I think this deserves a separate mention because if you’re considering moving to live in Thailand and you drink coffee… well. I have had about 3 good cups of coffee while in the country. I’ve tried coffee at all the Starbucks, Black Canyons, everywhere that offers coffee and you know what? Laos Coffee in Ubon Ratchathani was the best I’ve found. There is a little shop there on a cross street back behind Tung C Muang park that is really nice. I guess I’ve had about 50 cups there, not 3. I tend to exaggerate. If coffee fuels your mind, your creativity, your good mood… you may have a SERIOUS issue finding decent coffee in this country. I’ve had Nescafe Red Cup instant coffee now for about 8 years. It sucks, but, I just don’t think about it as I drink it… and then it’s fine. It’s just a way to ingest some caffeine, and not a religious experience like it used to be in Hawaii drinking Kona coffee at $50 a lb. Update: I started buying Suzuki espresso ground coffee at Makro and I found a very expensive coffee press for sale at Starbucks. I now have excellent coffee daily.


Where is the Best Place to Live in Thailand?

I already have narrowed it down to about 8 places, after doing some traveling around TH for the last 3 weeks. But, I’m interested in YOUR idea about the best place in Thailand to live.

If you reply – let me know the place, the reasons you like it – and what your overall idea of life is…

For me – I just need an internet connection. I enjoy outdoors activities. Love hunting snakes. Love hiking. Climbing. I despise cities. I don’t like baan naawk villages either. I like towns with few tourists, and even fewer during the slow season. I like certain foods. I have to live fairly close to a decent Makro with pretzels and Doritos… I need heat. Doesn’t need to be year round – but I couldn’t possibly live in Chiang Rai for instance.

I don’t need bars or massage or the other typical farang ‘necessities’.

I’d like to be close to a major airport and the train since I don’t take buses.

Hmm, what else?

I think that’s about it.

I’ve narrowed “the best place to live” in Thailand for me down to:

  • Suratthani
  • Nong Khai
  • Mukdahan
  • Prachuap Khiri Khan
  • Chaiya
  • Nakhon si Thammarat
  • Phangna
  • and possibly Trang.

Any great Thailand destination I’m missing based on the criteria I mentioned?