Smart Guys with Bargirls as Girlfriends…

Yeah, I met this girl in a bar in Pattaya (insert any destination in Thailand) and I really fell for her… she doesn’t fit the mold of the usual bargirl… this one is different… let me tell you why….

JESUS. If I read or hear one more of these stupid *#(&%)@ articles about this…

On Stickman is another one of these articles by “WildRover” and it just gave me the pissed off attitude I need to express it here. It has been building up.

I gotta wonder about the state of the guys that are writing these articles. I’m guessing them to be no better off in their home country than a bargirl is here. WHO can come to this country… find a whore in a bar… and fall in love with her… and then rationalize that she CHANGED! How does a girl get the whore OUT of her after doing it? How? Someone, please tell me!

It’s not just guys that I’m reading on Stick’s site either – it’s teachers I’m working with – that supposedly have a bachelor’s degree – one guy from America, one from England. They both seem like bright guys. They are both calling whores their girlfriends!

One guy told me that he hadn’t had much success with girls back in the states – he picked the “wrong girls”… yeah, well man, open your eyes and look at what you got now! You’re WORSE off – you’re dating a whore now! Did you date prostitutes in the states?

He met this girl in Patong at a bar… and now he’s calling her his girlfriend. She comes to stay with him sometimes – a 3-hour bus trip… or he goes down there where he stays with her. She’s ugly as all hell, smokes – he doesn’t… he’s into fitness. She is 30ish… bad bargirl tattoos all over her, bad hair…

He MIGHT be 32? Nothing adds up except he’s right – he picks the wrong girls.

This guy on Stick this morning that I read the first three paragraphs of… met this girl in a bar – she was being barfined. He KNOWS what she does. He falls in love with her anyway – she’s different… doesn’t fit the mold! haha! holy shit – what mold are you talking about?

WildRover says, ” I met A in Renoir on November 18th, 2005, at about 10 p.m. She was with another guy (big fat, drunk English guy) and he had bar fined her so, through her friend I said I would come back tomorrow, because she was just beautiful – skinny, dark Isaan girl, captivating smile, “ the usual.” and, ” I found out later that while I was in China she went with another customer (she had to work after all), an Australian, for two nights and he was going to Jakarta for two nights then back to Bangkok, when he promised he would take her to Hua Hin.”

Jesus – I had to stop shortly after because from this point he was going to tell me how she was different and didn’t fit the “pattern”.

Wait – holy hell – he started sending her money immediately! 25000 baht per month! hahahha! listen to this…

” After two weeks together I told her I didn’t want her to go back to work in the bars. I was still cautious because she had many stories about her previous Farang boyfriends. She said she had never been with a Thai boyfriend since she was sixteen. I asked her how much she needed to stay out of the bars and she would not answer. I asked if 15,000 THB would be enough (my first time at this!).

She said yes, but when I pushed a bit about her actual living costs I figured this would just cover the basics, so settled on BHT25,000 per month. Later, after about another three months, she told me her previous BF was giving her 60,000 a month. My silent reaction was “sucker!” but then I did the numbers and figured that if she worked 20 nights a month and did customers 15 nights a month, and got a reasonable 2,500 THB each night she could easily have made this much when you added in the drink commissions from the bar. However, she was still happy with 25,000 THB (and still is to this day) and has never asked me for more.”

UGGHHHHH*#**#*#**#~! Yeah, girls working in a restaurant make 7,000 baht per month! She’s got enough to save $500 USD per month? When he went back to her village he said the family treated him with a lot of respect! hahaha! yeah, he just bought them a car and fourteen bat gold chains! I’d kiss your feet ANYTIME you visited me. Respect out of financing me goes a long way… behind your back, they’re laughing their brown eyes black.

So – in my own humbly expressed opinion, this poor sap is going down a losing path.

What is stickman’s comment to this guy…? “From the sound of it she has most likely left the bar scene, so any check would be to verify the existence of boyfriends outside of the bar scene. Due to the sporadic nature of travels by many Western guys to and from Thailand, this can be more difficult to determine.

But overall, it sounds like she is on the straight and narrow.”

WHAT??? Am I THE ONE nuts here? On the straight and narrow what? Lines of coke?

I can’t believe he didn’t tell the guy to run with his money into Isaan and find a girl that is worthy of giving money to stay chaste.

So, that’s what I’m telling him.

Please, for the love of YOURSELF… save your money… spend it on a trip to the northeast sometime. Meet a girl in a mall that has something going for her… whether that’s college, a job, or nothing at all… she might have NOTHING going for her – except you… and send her 10,000 baht per month which is MORE than girls with no skills make even in Bangkok, and be much happier and have fewer games. Maybe you’ll still have games, maybe not… but you won’t be dealing with issues of a girl that recently dropped out of the bar scene because you gave her money to do it…

signed,

frustrated as all hell

(PS: Yep, I fell for one too when I first got here – hence the anger behind this rant. I vowed to help make another farang smarter because of it… Hahaha – like I’m so well-intentioned now… hahah… anyway – that’s the reason for the tone of this post…)

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40 thoughts on “Smart Guys with Bargirls as Girlfriends…

  • January 12, 2007 at 8:28 pm
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    Man, now thaaat is some funny SH**!!!

  • January 12, 2007 at 8:28 pm
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    Man, now thaaat is some funny SH**!!!

  • January 18, 2007 at 8:08 am
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    Yeah, I was a bit amped on this one – just too many seemingly smart guys I know doing it. And, it was a grim personal reminder of my idiocy 2 years ago in Patong!

  • January 18, 2007 at 8:08 am
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    Yeah, I was a bit amped on this one – just too many seemingly smart guys I know doing it. And, it was a grim personal reminder of my idiocy 2 years ago in Patong!

  • June 16, 2007 at 9:54 pm
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    really don’t understand these all young, good looking but stupid Farang who fell with bargirls.. Being in Thailand, this is so classic picture.
    Don’t fell them over and over, boys… the article is good for you to think twice and what I would say is there are too many nice normal Thai girls living out of those bars waiting for you.

  • June 16, 2007 at 9:54 pm
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    really don’t understand these all young, good looking but stupid Farang who fell with bargirls.. Being in Thailand, this is so classic picture.
    Don’t fell them over and over, boys… the article is good for you to think twice and what I would say is there are too many nice normal Thai girls living out of those bars waiting for you.

  • July 1, 2007 at 1:46 am
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    This is such a funny yet thought provoking post. I had to laugh but then something stopped me in my tracks….I’m a Thai girl, aged 34, been in UK since I was 4,been married for 4yrs, extremely happy and settled. When I was 21-23yrs old, I did a 2 yr stint as an escort in Kensington, UK. It was absolutely the same thing involved, except we did it in the the Dorcesther and Four Seasons, (not upstairs in some dark bar) I was no different from the bar girls in Pattaya, I was just fortunate to do it with a little more class and I probably had nicer range of clients to dine and ‘date.’
    Yes I agree with your post…alot of my mother’s customers at her restaurant have fallen for bargirls in Thailand.(she has a Thai restaurant in the Lake District…just incase you were thinking….)and these women have treated them like s**t,it hurts!!
    Why does it hurt me? Because I love my country, I love my people and I now love myself.
    I just hate it when I see Thai girls in UK behave as if Farangs are bank accounts, these men have feelings..they only want to be loved!!!
    My experience as an escort/prostitute/whore was a good one. I enjoyed it, loved my clients and said goodbye to them then I got a real career. I never once went back to it.
    So there’s living proof an escort/prostitute/whore can her stripes, sadly she just has to come from a privileged background, be educated and already drive a Merc. It’s sad but it’s true in my case.
    I’m sorry for all those men who have fallen in love and lost all their money to 50 members of their Thai brides family, I can only apologise on the behalf of woman kind. Thanks hhtp://adaughterofthailand.blogspot.com

  • July 1, 2007 at 1:46 am
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    This is such a funny yet thought provoking post. I had to laugh but then something stopped me in my tracks….I’m a Thai girl, aged 34, been in UK since I was 4,been married for 4yrs, extremely happy and settled. When I was 21-23yrs old, I did a 2 yr stint as an escort in Kensington, UK. It was absolutely the same thing involved, except we did it in the the Dorcesther and Four Seasons, (not upstairs in some dark bar) I was no different from the bar girls in Pattaya, I was just fortunate to do it with a little more class and I probably had nicer range of clients to dine and ‘date.’
    Yes I agree with your post…alot of my mother’s customers at her restaurant have fallen for bargirls in Thailand.(she has a Thai restaurant in the Lake District…just incase you were thinking….)and these women have treated them like s**t,it hurts!!
    Why does it hurt me? Because I love my country, I love my people and I now love myself.
    I just hate it when I see Thai girls in UK behave as if Farangs are bank accounts, these men have feelings..they only want to be loved!!!
    My experience as an escort/prostitute/whore was a good one. I enjoyed it, loved my clients and said goodbye to them then I got a real career. I never once went back to it.
    So there’s living proof an escort/prostitute/whore can her stripes, sadly she just has to come from a privileged background, be educated and already drive a Merc. It’s sad but it’s true in my case.
    I’m sorry for all those men who have fallen in love and lost all their money to 50 members of their Thai brides family, I can only apologise on the behalf of woman kind. Thanks hhtp://adaughterofthailand.blogspot.com

  • July 31, 2007 at 6:09 am
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    Hehe.. I wonder if you can give me some advice. I took my Bf to see the Thailand I know (which is limited, as I unfortunately only go as a tourist), and he loved it. Only thing, he was a bit confused and maybe also a bit disappointed because it didn’t really fit the usual picture of Thailand. (no cute thai girls yelling after him. *lol*)
    These guys seem to have a good time (they must be in order to be willing to send money to women they hardly know), so could you please tell me were we might encouter such? :)

    Line

  • July 31, 2007 at 6:09 am
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    Hehe.. I wonder if you can give me some advice. I took my Bf to see the Thailand I know (which is limited, as I unfortunately only go as a tourist), and he loved it. Only thing, he was a bit confused and maybe also a bit disappointed because it didn’t really fit the usual picture of Thailand. (no cute thai girls yelling after him. *lol*)
    These guys seem to have a good time (they must be in order to be willing to send money to women they hardly know), so could you please tell me were we might encouter such? :)

    Line

  • July 31, 2007 at 7:26 am
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    Hi Suffer – Yeah, there are some incredible girls here that would make great spouses to great guys. Unfortunately there aren’t that many great guys coming to Thailand to find them! I strongly suggest all the great guys and all the great Thai girls meet in Ubon Ratchathani at the coffee houses. How’s that? :)

  • July 31, 2007 at 7:26 am
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    Hi Suffer – Yeah, there are some incredible girls here that would make great spouses to great guys. Unfortunately there aren’t that many great guys coming to Thailand to find them! I strongly suggest all the great guys and all the great Thai girls meet in Ubon Ratchathani at the coffee houses. How’s that? :)

  • July 31, 2007 at 7:29 am
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    Hi Line! Hmm, are you suggesting that I might have some inside advice about the naughty nightlife??? OH MY! Yes, in fact, I do… I had a great time in Patong Beach, Phuket when I first arrived in Thailand. I’d highly recommend it for some nights of fun. If you go during low season you might find it a bit boring and Pattaya’s Walking St. near Beach road more fun, but for me – Patong Beach is really a cool place at night on Soi Bangla aka: Bangkla Road. Good clean fun…well, as clean as you want it… Aren’t you afraid your b/f will fall in love with a slutty but drop-dead gorgeous bargirl? :)

  • July 31, 2007 at 7:29 am
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    Hi Line! Hmm, are you suggesting that I might have some inside advice about the naughty nightlife??? OH MY! Yes, in fact, I do… I had a great time in Patong Beach, Phuket when I first arrived in Thailand. I’d highly recommend it for some nights of fun. If you go during low season you might find it a bit boring and Pattaya’s Walking St. near Beach road more fun, but for me – Patong Beach is really a cool place at night on Soi Bangla aka: Bangkla Road. Good clean fun…well, as clean as you want it… Aren’t you afraid your b/f will fall in love with a slutty but drop-dead gorgeous bargirl? :)

  • May 9, 2011 at 3:27 am
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    Hi Vern. I stay now in Ubon Ratchathani and would like to meet those nice girls you talk about. What place do you reccomend?
    Thank u.

    • May 9, 2011 at 3:59 am
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      If you’re who you say you are – you’ll have no problem finding them my dear friend…

      haha… I would recommend you visit big C – walk around the entire place – especially the 3rd floor by the movie theater. They still have coffee up there? Get some and plant yourself there… If you’re decent looking – and probably even if you’aren’t – they’ll find you.

      I also highly recommend going up by UBU – ubon ratch – university in warin chamrap – and finding every coffee place in the area – and spending hours there.

      And practice your Thai – and not Bangkok Thai – but, Isaan – with the tones…

      Hmm, what else… Robinson center – KFC, Swenson, McDonalds… places that Thai girls that want to meet a farang – would expect to find them.

      Hope that helps.

      • May 9, 2011 at 1:01 pm
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        Hi.
        I went to Big C, but it only has two floors, and no any cinema. I went to the one that is located in the north of Ubon. Maybe you reffer to the one that is on the south.
        http://www.bigc.co.th/en/stores/bigc/ubonratchathani/

        Anyway it was a nice time, because on the way I meet twin girls and have been talking with them for half an hour. In fact, one of then was enjoying to practice her english.

        • May 10, 2011 at 8:48 pm
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          That’s the one I was talking about. See – twin girls… it doesn’t get any better than that my friend. Does it? Triplets?

          • May 11, 2011 at 1:39 am
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            We just talk for a while.. and I don’t thing they would be over 18..anyway we had good time.
            But still not sure: you was talking about north Big C or south Big C?

          • May 11, 2011 at 1:43 am
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            Any big c. Any tesco. Any robinson. Any coffee shop or ice cream place – swensons… Any KFC. Any Mcdonalds. Any park in the evening. Ubon has Tung C Muang park – go in the evening and walk around. Robinson shopping center always seems so easy to find women at… they are working. Start talking to them. Soon you’ll have a group of them around trying to figure you out. If you don’t have a motorbike or car – get one. Take them to eat dinner. The korean bbq deals are great. Expect that they’ll bring a friend – unless you ask them not to specifically.

            What are you doing in Ubon anyway? lol… teaching?

          • May 11, 2011 at 8:48 am
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            Ok. I came to Ubon mainly for two reasons
            1. going to Laos for visa run.
            2. meeting a girl I have been talking with in thaifriendly.com.
            I met the girl yesterday in the afternoon in Tung C Muang park. We have been talking (despite she doesnt speak too much english), eating ice cream and them we went for dinner in shopping center (dont remember the name). She is real isan girl, studying law. Now Im in Laos, and hopefully we will meet again in 2 or 3 days.
            Anyway, thank u for your advice. In fact Ubon is a nice place to find a good girl, you can see many students around.
            By the way, do you use to meet in some bar in Ubon?

          • May 11, 2011 at 9:06 am
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            Ok, good – yeah, Laos is close by. Good place for a visa run.

            If the girl you met can get on a website and speak english to you – she really knows Eng. compared to most girls in Isaan as you’ve probably found out.

            I’m not sure what you’re asking about the bars in Ubon. I used to meet girls in bars – but nothing ever came of those trysts, if that’s what you mean. “The Rock” in Ubon is legend… as is “U-Bar” down near Tung C Muang… There are fishbowls and such if that’s what you’re into, but I can’t for the life of me remember the names of them. Good luck to you there…

          • May 12, 2011 at 2:06 am
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            sorry.
            I meant, if you (the expat in Ubon) use to meet up in some place.

          • May 13, 2011 at 9:37 am
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            There were a couple of places people used to meet… Wrong Way Cafe was one… and my mind is shot – can’t think of the names of the 2 others I knew. Anybody?

  • May 9, 2011 at 3:27 am
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    Hi Vern. I stay now in Ubon Ratchathani and would like to meet those nice girls you talk about. What place do you reccomend?
    Thank u.

    • May 9, 2011 at 3:59 am
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      If you’re who you say you are – you’ll have no problem finding them my dear friend…

      haha… I would recommend you visit big C – walk around the entire place – especially the 3rd floor by the movie theater. They still have coffee up there? Get some and plant yourself there… If you’re decent looking – and probably even if you’aren’t – they’ll find you.

      I also highly recommend going up by UBU – ubon ratch – university in warin chamrap – and finding every coffee place in the area – and spending hours there.

      And practice your Thai – and not Bangkok Thai – but, Isaan – with the tones…

      Hmm, what else… Robinson center – KFC, Swenson, McDonalds… places that Thai girls that want to meet a farang – would expect to find them.

      Hope that helps.

      • May 9, 2011 at 1:01 pm
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        Hi.
        I went to Big C, but it only has two floors, and no any cinema. I went to the one that is located in the north of Ubon. Maybe you reffer to the one that is on the south.
        http://www.bigc.co.th/en/stores/bigc/ubonratchathani/

        Anyway it was a nice time, because on the way I meet twin girls and have been talking with them for half an hour. In fact, one of then was enjoying to practice her english.

        • May 10, 2011 at 8:48 pm
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          That’s the one I was talking about. See – twin girls… it doesn’t get any better than that my friend. Does it? Triplets?

          • May 11, 2011 at 1:39 am
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            We just talk for a while.. and I don’t thing they would be over 18..anyway we had good time.
            But still not sure: you was talking about north Big C or south Big C?

          • May 11, 2011 at 1:43 am
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            Any big c. Any tesco. Any robinson. Any coffee shop or ice cream place – swensons… Any KFC. Any Mcdonalds. Any park in the evening. Ubon has Tung C Muang park – go in the evening and walk around. Robinson shopping center always seems so easy to find women at… they are working. Start talking to them. Soon you’ll have a group of them around trying to figure you out. If you don’t have a motorbike or car – get one. Take them to eat dinner. The korean bbq deals are great. Expect that they’ll bring a friend – unless you ask them not to specifically.

            What are you doing in Ubon anyway? lol… teaching?

          • May 11, 2011 at 8:48 am
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            Ok. I came to Ubon mainly for two reasons
            1. going to Laos for visa run.
            2. meeting a girl I have been talking with in thaifriendly.com.
            I met the girl yesterday in the afternoon in Tung C Muang park. We have been talking (despite she doesnt speak too much english), eating ice cream and them we went for dinner in shopping center (dont remember the name). She is real isan girl, studying law. Now Im in Laos, and hopefully we will meet again in 2 or 3 days.
            Anyway, thank u for your advice. In fact Ubon is a nice place to find a good girl, you can see many students around.
            By the way, do you use to meet in some bar in Ubon?

          • May 11, 2011 at 9:06 am
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            Ok, good – yeah, Laos is close by. Good place for a visa run.

            If the girl you met can get on a website and speak english to you – she really knows Eng. compared to most girls in Isaan as you’ve probably found out.

            I’m not sure what you’re asking about the bars in Ubon. I used to meet girls in bars – but nothing ever came of those trysts, if that’s what you mean. “The Rock” in Ubon is legend… as is “U-Bar” down near Tung C Muang… There are fishbowls and such if that’s what you’re into, but I can’t for the life of me remember the names of them. Good luck to you there…

          • May 12, 2011 at 2:06 am
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            sorry.
            I meant, if you (the expat in Ubon) use to meet up in some place.

          • May 13, 2011 at 9:37 am
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            There were a couple of places people used to meet… Wrong Way Cafe was one… and my mind is shot – can’t think of the names of the 2 others I knew. Anybody?

  • September 29, 2012 at 3:53 pm
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    Hi all, i have been with a isaan girl now for 2 years, i could not be happier, ive never been to Bangkok, Pataya or met a bar girl, the best thing i did was read a book called “Thailand Fever” so i could understand Thai culture and the way they think, i read this book 1 month into the relastionship and it has help so much, we plan on getting married in December, what i am saying is i think isaan girls are so geniune, they hate bargirls and are 100% Buddhist, shaw i give her money but what she gives back is replaceable, all her friends want a westerner, and there are many, so i am thinking of starting a site for Ubon Village girls, its going to be strict, police checks, etc, im not going to spoil an isann girls dream, but would love for any western to feel like i do, unconditional love, once you find an isaan girl, its mind blowing, anyway i thought id put it out there, if you go to Thailand, go there for the culture, not the sex, go East, not for sex, and if you want to marry a Thai girl dont go to Bangkok or Pataya, u would be better off going to the casino and putting everything on heads, thanks

  • September 29, 2012 at 3:53 pm
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    Hi all, i have been with a isaan girl now for 2 years, i could not be happier, ive never been to Bangkok, Pataya or met a bar girl, the best thing i did was read a book called “Thailand Fever” so i could understand Thai culture and the way they think, i read this book 1 month into the relastionship and it has help so much, we plan on getting married in December, what i am saying is i think isaan girls are so geniune, they hate bargirls and are 100% Buddhist, shaw i give her money but what she gives back is replaceable, all her friends want a westerner, and there are many, so i am thinking of starting a site for Ubon Village girls, its going to be strict, police checks, etc, im not going to spoil an isann girls dream, but would love for any western to feel like i do, unconditional love, once you find an isaan girl, its mind blowing, anyway i thought id put it out there, if you go to Thailand, go there for the culture, not the sex, go East, not for sex, and if you want to marry a Thai girl dont go to Bangkok or Pataya, u would be better off going to the casino and putting everything on heads, thanks

  • December 8, 2012 at 3:28 pm
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    this story about bar girls is the same
    over and over again
    bar girls think nothing of sex
    thats the long and short of it
    if he sending her 25.000 a month more fool him
    5.000/ 10.000 is more than enough
    any more and she will get greedy
    DONT HAVE A BAR GIRL AS GIRLFRIEND YOU WILL GET BURNED

  • December 8, 2012 at 3:28 pm
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    this story about bar girls is the same
    over and over again
    bar girls think nothing of sex
    thats the long and short of it
    if he sending her 25.000 a month more fool him
    5.000/ 10.000 is more than enough
    any more and she will get greedy
    DONT HAVE A BAR GIRL AS GIRLFRIEND YOU WILL GET BURNED

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